What is better than looking so good that your partner would want you back? YOU FEELING CONFIDENT ABOUT YOUR SELF WORTH, BEING EMOTIONALLY SAFE & DEVELOPING A HEALTHY MINDSET with your nutrition and fitness. That is the best revenge you can have.
The best revenge is to have enough self-worth so you don’t seek it.
Breakups are hard but how we move forward determines our health & happiness
Some of us lose a partner because of unseen circumstances. Some experience being left without any reason or explanation. Whatever the reason for your break up, it is a hard time. And after a breakup, we can be left feeling low in self-esteem and self-worth. There are also various emotions to deal with. Loss, heartache, sadness, and grief, confusion, betrayal, attack, drama, and helplessness. And there is no rule for how long we mourn our losses. But working through it in a healthy way that empowers us and builds us, is certainly better than quick revenge and a short triumph.
How to overcome a breakup- the healthier way?
Getting fit to get revenge or to get attention from others may increase self-esteem for a little while. But revenge takes us away from not addressing our emotions. Getting fit to mask or distract from any emotional pain is a way of working though the pain. But getting fit for ourselves -to empower ourselves to work through the emotional pain is better.
Metaphorically, we nurture a plant so it can grow its roots first and then flower. A flower without roots doesn’t last long and needs replacing once dried out. Nurturing our emotions first is creating a foundation so we can discover what our truth is first.
“Above all be the heroine of your life not the victim”
“Acknowledge you’ve had a rough time and you need to be kind to yourself,” psychotherapist Sally Baker says. “That would be a healthier, more holistic thing to do for a period of time rather than throwing yourself in the gym a million times a week and not eating.”
Are there any bad eating or exercise habits that you have?
- eating junk food every day (instead of limiting to once a week or once a month).
- eating packaged/high sugar snacks (instead of eating 2 serves of fruit every day)
- eating high fat/carb meals (instead of balancing out your protein and carbs with 1/2 plate of veggies)
- feeling out of control with treat food and eating so much treat food you miss out on a balanced meal (instead try delaying the treat food and eating balanced meal first to train the mind to delay gratification for treat food)
- Exercising to burn calories (instead try exercising to be stronger, feel lighter, be better at a sport)
How to build self esteem and be healthier than ever after a break up?
- focus on who you want to become as a person now
- learn to eat balanced meals
- eat to support yourself emotionally (fuel your body with nutritious balanced meals and natural snacks every 3 hours)
- hang around other women who show they care about their bodies and their self care (become who you hang around with)
- talk to a professional about building boundaries in your struggle points so you feel safe emotionally and true to yourself
- go for walks daily purely to breathe fresh air and enjoy the simple things again (nature)
- do exercise that helps you connect to your body in a nurturing way (like Yoga & Pilates)
- let out steam and with more invigorating exercise
Be an observer. Not everything needs a reaction. ~Angelina PhouGui Chan-Ong